I am 30 years old, very single, no kids and in no rush to change any of it. I'm one of the last of my buddies to not be married. Sure, I wonder what it would be like and sometimes it even sounds like a good thing. I get the feeling that if I really wanted to get married and have a family, I'd be in a panic right about now. But I'm not. I have other things that are more important: I need to finish grad school (three more years at least), move out of Dad's place, be alone for a while and do a lot of traveling. If I get married now and have kids like many people my age, I would miss out on much of that. If I get married as soon as I get a place of my own, I feel like I've never really lived for myself. It would be like going from teenager to "Dad" without any in-between. Not for me.
As already talked about in previous posts, people's fertility declines with age. So if I wanted kids, I'd be running out of time. There is a good chance I will never hear the pitter patter of little blah blah blah. That's not necessarily a bad thing. A news report claims that childless people are happier than parents.
Its a cliche to say that parenthood is the toughest job that you can have. Still, maybe it holds true. People with children are more likely to be depressed than non-parents. They are more depressed when the kids are grown and left home, when thy kids are adopted, when they are stepparents and the parents don't have custody of them.
"Don't feel guilty about resenting your children," says psychologist Susan Jeffers, PhD. "We all as parents go through these emotions. It is part of the process of having a child. You have to take responsibility for creating a meaningful life for yourself, so you don't get depressed. Parenthood is very hard. "
Source:
http://www.foxnews.com/story/0,2933,184713,00.html
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