Am I an introvert? Oh God, let me tell you. While I'm at work, running around, cooking food for impatient customers in a noisy supermarket, the idea of sitting quietly at my computer and surfing the web sounds like Heaven. My extrovert co-workers want me to join them at the bar and take a woman home, but I don't want all of that hassle. After being in a cacophonous store for a few hours, who wants to go to a crowded, sound filled bar? Sure as hell not me. I also use words like "cacophonous."
College was a pain in the ass for me. I didn't mind the classes. In fact, I enjoyed the challenge that they gave me. "Go ahead and make all the rules for that 12 page paper, Prof. I'll still get an A." It was that damn, crazy dorm that made me feel like I was in prison. Music played as loud as possible all night long, drunks stumbling around (ok fine, I did that sometimes, too) and getting kicked out of the room cause your roomie brought some chick back gave me headaches.
Was I jealous? A little, maybe. But I genuinely preferred peace and quiet over the raucous social scene. If that meant being single, than it was a price that I was willing to pay. Still, every once in a while, a female classmate would start a conversation with me. It was never obvious flirting, which is what tripped me up several times. Women never come right out and say "Hey, wanna fuck?" They would approach with a smile and mention that my or their room mate would be gone for the weekend. Then they'd ask if I have any plans.
After I got their "code" through my thick skull, I wondered where they even got the idea to be attracted to me. Slowly, I'd figure out that they came from the classes where I spoke up the most. The classes where I kept my mouth shut? I never even got a patronizing smile out of the women in those classes. So yes, my fellow introverts, you do need to speak up. You cant avoid it. The good news is that you can do the speaking up in class, where you know what the fuck you're talking about. You don't have to do it at some party where you've never seen any of the other people before.
After you start talking with them outside of class, do a lot of listening. We're not talkers to begin with, so listening should be no problem. Look at her face, smile and nod occasionally. The trick is, you really have to be listening. They'll know if you aren't. I don't know how they know, but they know. Don't try to be Mr Funny or Mr Cool, just be genuine. If they ask for your opinion, give it but be nice.
You wont always get laid. That's just the way it is. No one ALWAYS gets laid. You win some, you lose some. But it is possible. I think a big thing that we introverts have going for us is the fact that we aren't the party animals. We're different. Women must get sick of guys that act like horny teenagers. A female co-worker (who is all of 21 years old) told me that she is tired of dating "little boys." She wants a man. I was amazed. Twenty one years old and sick to death of "boys" already.
Of course, as I said in my very first post, I'm a virgin. So yes, the title is misleading. Its not "An Introvert's Sex Story" as much as its "Yes, Women ARE Willing to Fuck An Introvert, and May Actually Seek Them Out." So if you feel cheated out of a juicy sex story, my bad. On the other hand, if I can lift a fellow introverts day by giving them hope and a plan of action, then its all worth it.
Still, this is a biology web page and this post is really short on biology. The best I can give you is that fact that introverts are made that way due to the DRD4 gene. Everyone has it, but its built shorter in introverts. It makes introverts much more sensitive to the chemical dopamine, making them want less of the activities that stimulate them. Extroverts are less sensitive to dopamine, and need the experiences to stimulate them. Hence, more talking, playing sports and having sex. More sex means more likely to get pregnant and more pregnancies by extroverted people with the short DRD4 gene means more extroverts. Three times more, apparently. Gotta say, mother nature has a winning strategy, there.
I'm not a member of the hubpages website below, but I do think that a lot of what they say is interesting. Some of it does match up with my personal experiences. Yes, its an advertisement for some seminar on how to meet people, but its still worth a read.
Source:
http://hubpages.com/hub/Why-Beautiful-Women-Love-Introverts-Like-You
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