Flirting: Do You Think I'm Sexy?

Okay, so you've got you're eye on the studly football quarterback or the women with the mesmerising cleavage. You are attracted to them, but that doesn't mean anything unless they are attracted to you. You have to get them attracted to you. This is the tricky part: the mating dance.

Women send out five times as many flirting signals as men do (Which totally took me by surprise. I never know what the hell women are thinking.) They like to touch themselves and you. No, not like that but they do want you to look at the places they are touching. (No wonder I couldnt stop thinking about a former co-workers chest after she gently caressed between her breasts as we were talking. Dammit.) That means look, not ogle. If she is sitting across from you, and slowly crosses and uncrosses her legs while gently rubbing her thigh, thats a sign. If she touches her own arm, thats a good sign. If she touches your arm, thats even better.

Besides touching, she will lick her lips and look you in the eye. Eye contact wont be brief, it will last just long enough to make you feel slightly uncomfortable. The way they dress is a form of flirting. A women in a baggy sweat shirt and sweat pants does not want to be bothered by a man. A woman that is showing a little bit of skin on her shoulder, chest or legs is more interested. One of my personal favorites is when they sway their hips as they walk. Its sexy and kind of naughty. It says, "Look at me. Down here."

Men apparantly do a lot of the same things. I know personally, I tend to stand up taller and suck in my gut when an attractive woman is around. We all know that we have to look good to impress a woman. We'll suddenly brush lint off our shoulder, run our hands over our neck, check our tie and our hair. Looking is important to us. I'm sure women know that. What they might not know is that when we look at an attractive lady, our pupils can get four times bigger than normal. Dialated pupils let in more sunlight to our eyes, letting us see better.

Women seem to think that shyness is cute but not sexy. Thats why we try to act like big shots. Alpha males. We act more assertive and talk louder. Who do you think gets laid more? James Bond, or Melvin the librarian? Like the woman that sways her hips, men loop their thumbs into the belt loops of their pants. It makes women look downward.

Sources:
http://www.effective-communicating.com/how-women-flirt.html
http://www.effective-communicating.com/how-men-flirt.html